[livingwith]

I am 31 years old, and my boyfriend was 48. We were together nearly a year. Sex had been good up until a couple months ago. He started having a hard time maintaining an erection. This would happen during intercourse alot. He did get on viagra and it seemed to help at first, but eventually it stopped working. The last 2 months has been hard on us.
We ended up breaking up cause he said there is no point in him being around me if his manhood is gone. This is so hard, cause we love each other...Read the full article

[FRUSTRATEDNTX]

Hi LP....not sure if you and your BF ever got back together, but I too share your frustration. I have been dating a guy who is in his late 40's and who is having ED issues. In the beginning, he came up with all kinds of excuses as to why he wasn't either able to get an erection or maintain one. He even tried to put the blame on me on a few occasions by suggesting that I wasn't lubricated enough or he felt that I didn't desire him, etc. It got to the point to where I had to call him out and tell him that he had an ED issue. My problem is not that he has a problem getting or maintaining an erection but that he doesn't even attempt to have sex, avoids intimacy and feels that he can "fix" this by exercising, eating better and getting more rest. So, in the meantime, I'm supposed to just wait. I'm sorry, but this remedy is not working. This has got me so pissed off that now, I don't even want to be bothered and am thinking about other options. I really do care alot about him and I'm hoping that we don't end up parting ways because of this. My question is (if you're still reading this forum since your initial post was 8 months ago), did you all talk about his problem or did he just accept that there was a problem but refuse to address it with a doctor? My BF will talk about it with me, but I can tell that he's very uncomfortable and I can understand that. He did finally go to the doctor, but told me that the doctor told him to "exercise, eat better and get rest" and that this may be "psychological" rather than medical. So, another question, for the men that are reading this post, how would you suggest going about trying to "help" him get past this if it "is" psychological"? I've tried not pressuring him to have sex, not coming on to him, etc. I've been letting him initiate when he feels that he's ready, but that hardly ever happens. Any help would be most appreciated.

[eyes wide open]

Hello,
I, too am dealing with a boyfriend who has ED. He is 45, I am 46. We have been dating for 6 mos. I have never been exposed to a man with this problem. I have been reading everything I can find on the internet because he wont go to a doctor, plus his blood pressure is very high. He believes by dieting and excercising his blood pressure will go down and his ED will go away, so far his method is not working. In any case, in your post you wrote, "He did finally go to the doctor, but told me that the doctor told him to "exercise, eat better and get rest" and that this may be "psychological" rather than medical", It sounds to me like what my boyfried believes. However, I have read over, and over, that only 10% or less cases of ED are psychological. A long time ago doctors did believe this to be true however this is not the case and there are physically identifiable reasons for ED. A Urologist is the best choice for accurately identifying the problem. I have given up on my boyfriend- he will not go to a doctor, believes he is going to die of a heart attack and thats all. (he is only 45). He starts fights with me about nothing. We haven't spoken in two weeks. - God Bless you, and Good Luck.

[learningaboutT]

You are better off to get out while you can. The road of testosterone hormone replacement is a very bumpy ride, and if you are not yet in a committed marriage relationship, you are still young and free and should run for the hills and find someone who doesn't have this problem.