[sunshyne]

I'm looking for ways to help my partner with his ED problem, but I am becoming impatient and starting to believe he doesn't have an interest in me. My partner had an overactive thyroid which was treated with iodine some years ago. Now is being treated with medication. When we are being intimate if we take too long in foreplay he looses his erection. There has been time that he looses his erection while he is inside of me. When I ask him what is wrong he explains that he looses his strength around the pelvic area. We are also trying to have a child/ren, my GYN had him tested for sperm count which came back with a good sperm count but a moderate count of bactecria. Which he explained is a UTI and prescribed antibiotics. Can a UTI cause the loss of strength my partner is experiencing? Can this be treated by medication? or Could this be psychological?

[DrQuantum]

It is certainly possible that a UTI could contribute to some form of ED. However, it is not likely and, anyway, they are easily treated with antibiotics. However, based on your description, I would guess that there is likely a psychological component. You need to look for other signs that would indicate if he is truly losing interest. If he is the type that will be introspective and examine his own motives and conflicts, then maybe you could sit down and talk to him to see if he will explore the issue further. Job stress or other interpersonal problems could contribute as well and if that is the case, you may be able to help offer some ideas to deal with these external pressures.

Good Luck.

[sunshyne]

Thanks

[learningaboutT]

It is important not to overstress at the moment of the erection loss. That will cause him to be more self conscious and he will basically "psyche" himself out more and more, to the point he may avoid sex altogether out of fear he cannot perform.

When it happens, try to just go with the flow and say something like, "that's okay honey, I am kind of tired tonight" or something along those lines to let him know it's alright, he's a normal man, you are a patient woman, and that will go a long way toward helping him have more confidence for the next time.