Female Sexual Dysfunction

[makethegreatescape]

Please, can someone help me? Offer advice? I'm eighteen years old and have been sexually active since late January. But ever since I started having sex it has been plagued with problems and they keep taking a toll--on me and my boyfriend of about one year.

When we first engaged in the act of intercourse, it was painful--so painful that I could not stand it. It took me three weeks of trying on and off to be able to accommodate him. He's about seven inches, never goes in without a condom Now, he can enter and exit easily but I always get a bit of pain when he first enters. However, that is not the biggest part of my problem...

All my teenage life, I have heard about the joys of sex--how good it feels, how it can bring you closer. So, we engage in oral--this is fine. I get orgasms through oral and he usually enters after I orgasm, which usually brings a nice amount. So then we get to the main show--intercourse. He feels something totally amazing and I--feel incredible discomfort. If I feel anything at all, it is a discomforting pain, you say a pressure, so intense at times that it causes me to be temporarily unable to breathe. Otherwise, it has never, ever felt good to me. I have never been close to cumming vaginally and spend most of the time grinning and bearing it, wishing he would just finish, and trying to hide it all from him. When it doesn't hurt, it just feels unnatural and unsatisfying.

He has been extremely patient with me, and cares about me. But now, it is has come to the point where neither of us want sex. He has this large amount of tension but is unwilling to get rid of it. Sometimes, when we do engage in intercourse, his thoughts and concern for me causes him to be unable to achieve orgasm himself. He is suffering, constantly reminded that he is unable to satisfy me with what makes him a man. I am suffering from the expectation, and knowing that it is most likely my fault and he is just the unlikely person who gets to come along for the ride. We have asked for advice but my doctor merely said to add lubricant and change positions--neither or which has worked.

After searching online, I have found no answers. With no where to turn, I am hoping I can find some answers. I'm at a loss...I am sick of crying, sick of trying, I just want to start enjoying it....can someone please, please offer advice. Point me to something I might have?