[Guest]

I am a 46 yr female that has been having problems with climax. I do not know where to turn, my partner is fantastic and very patient but its getting harder and harder for me to not think im a disappointment to him. I had a hysterectomy at the age of 26 could this be my problem?

[Guest]

While most men want their lovers to have great sex and earth-moving orgasms, men are still self-centered enough that as long as she gives him earth-moving orgasms and does not complain about her own lack thereof, he will not consider her a disappointment.

I hope that makes sense.

However, if you see him having all the fun, the day may come when you start to resent it and will being to hold back as you don't get as much out of sex.

I would ask if you have had these problems before? Some women have to learn how to orgasm, and they have to learn by exploring themselves. Once you can learn to bring yourself to orgasm, you can teach him how to do it. Note, too, that few women can reach orgasm via intercourse alone. It may take oral, or a combination of penile and manual stimulation.

If you can provide more info, we might be able to offer some better suggestions.
[quote] I am a 46 yr female that has been having problems with climax. I do not know where to turn, my partner is fantastic and very patient but its getting harder and harder for me to not think im a disappointment to him... [/quote]