Female Sexual Dysfunction

[ktee]

Ive have been with my partner for 7 yrs now and we have been through alot together. We have 3 small children and a busy lifestyle. After my first son i suffered vulval dystrophy which caused me to have pain with intercourse.. I had a operation to fix this problem but it never went away. The doctors told me that since the effected area was removed but i was still experiencing pain i was suffering vaganismis.. They couldnt give me a treatment to fix this and said that having another baby could help the problem by stretching the area and reducing the pain. I have just had my third child and the problem is still there. I have absolutely no interest in sex and would be fine if i never had sex again but obviously as part of a loving relationship thats not possible.. Where do i go from here, do i need to see a specialist or just my regular doctor.. Im currently breastfeeding my 3 month old baby so are there any medications that i can take safely?? I feel like im a failure that my body just doesnt work anymore....