Female Sexual Dysfunction

[jon1234]

Hi,

I was hoping somone here could give me some advise, my girlfriend is having trouble having reaching orgasm. We have tried a few things to try and correct this. I do not wish to make her aware that I am worried about it because I do not want her to get a complex about it, making the problem worse. She only enjoys only direct contact with the clitoris and says she hardly feels it indirect contact. She reaches gets so close to orgasm i.e. plateu. But just as she reaches the peak she withdraws from contact. I asked her what was happening and she says that at that point (after she has pulled away) it becomes hypersensitive and she cannot handle being touched any further. She has never been able to make herself orgasm, the same thing happens when she stimulates herself. However she has orgasmed before (last one two years ago). I was wondering whether it could be a learned behaviour? Does anyone have any advise to overcome the hypersensitivity problem.

Thank you in advance for your replies

[michelle150]

I personally think it's great you're so concerned about your girlfriend getting the most out of the experience, while still being sensitive to how she feels.

I think it might be a matter of timing-by the time she's reached this point, she may actually benefit from indirect stimulation. If she's like a lot of women, what works at one point in the arc of her arousal won't work at another; you might just need to change it up a little.

Try shifting positions when you're close to the critical zone, if you haven't already. A different angle that's less direct might work. Remember too that the labia are a slightly sensitive, but very sensual part of her anatomy. Ease up a little on the straightforward approach, if you know what I mean, and try gently caressing her there, and her other sensual spots.

Wish you luck!