Teen Pregnancy

[livingwith]

Hi.
I’m telling my story in hopes that girls will learn from this. Well I was 16 when I got pregnant. My boyfriend at the time was 19 going on 20. He actually pressured me into having sex. We were together for about 6 months when I found out I was pregnant. He said he would be there for me and for a while I believed him. We broke up half way through my pregnancy. I ended up getting kicked out of my (catholic) high school and having to finish the rest of my junior year at home. That nine months...Read the full article

[S.R.M.]

When I read your story I started to tear up. Not because you made the wrong decision just because you had to go through that. I am only 15 and I my due date is december and I am scared yet the father is still with me. All I wanted to say is I look up too you and everything you went through and are still going through.

[victoriahollands]

I'm sixteen since March 12. It's been a little over a month, but I found out about a month ago. I'm six weeks and six days. I decided to keep it. Don't get me wrong, I am scared. I told my mom twice I wanted an abortion. I got scared and cancelled. Everyone at school, well, now they're vicious. Girls I don't even know are talking S*** about it. So, if one day I'm pregnant, and the next week I come to school after recovering, and I'm "unpregnant" I'm either a baby murderer, or I was lying for attention. It's harder and harder everyday. My teacher told me I'd start feeling better after three months. GREAT! Too bad I'm only about seven weeks. Morning sickness is awful girls, and so is the pressure and expectations and the awful words being said about you by classmates. And the father stuck around, yeah. But he'll never understand and never will have to experience what I'm going through. It makes us even more emotional than all these extra hormones. I just hope my pregnancy turns out good. Even if my baby comes out missing an arm and when it's older tells me it wants to be a homosexual postman, I'll love it all the same. I'll update.

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[tay09]

Hey, I'm eighteen, but I personally believe I am still too young to have a child. I am about to leave home for college, and I am going to have a rigorous schedule and very little time to worry about being pregnant. Much like you, I am going for my nursing degree. I want my BSN, but it's going to be tough and costly, because the program it's under goes through the summer, and my scholarship does not cover summer classes. The last thing I need to do is add a baby to the equation. There is my problem.

My boyfriend and I have been dating for over eight months. He is one of the few guys out there that are not overly obnoxious, and he really does try. Actually, when we first starting being sexually active, I am the one that pushed it, because I didn't want to be an eighteen year old virgin. Stupid, huh? Now, it's seven months later (Yes, we had sex for the first time when we had been dating exactly a month. It just happened that way.) and I think I could be pregnant. Since you have gone through everything you have gone through, I was hoping you could help me out.

I have been sick lately, but I am hoping that is because of stress. My mother and I don't exactly get along- she hates my boyfriend and blames most of her problems on me, and trust me she has a lot of problems- and I am worried about paying for college. My older sister is basically psychotic, but she's getting married next year. She sends me random "hate mail", and- to make it better- we're attending the same university. Thankfully, it's bigger than most, so I may be able to avoid contact. My younger sister is mentally handicapped and we're worried about her, because she has "invisible friends" that are making her suicidal. She's mentally five years old, so she's suppose to have imaginary friends, but what five year old has imaginary friends that tell her to kill herself? You see our problem?

Either way, I've been really nauseous lately, I get constant headaches- which is strange for me- and for a while I couldn't stand the sight of food. Now, I'm the opposite. I can't keep away from food, even when it makes me sick to smell it. I'm starting to crave meat, and I'm a vegetarian, which is causing even more mental damage! I missed my period. It was suppose to be at the beginning of the month, but now it's the 17th, and it's still M.I.A, so I've almost missed two, because the last time I had a period was either late May or like June 1st. Obviously, I'm freaking out!

On the other hand, if I am pregnant, my boyfriend is backing me up. Yes, when I told him I had missed my period, I thought he was going to cry, but now every time we discuss the matter he repeatedly apologizes and blames himself. He's eighteen and going to college too, and together we have figured out some "back up" plans just in case my mom kicks me out. She's sort of bipolar, so I have no idea what she'll do. I am actually afraid she may try to hurt the baby (if I am pregnant), so if I find out I am, I don't know how/when/if I should tell her.

So, do you have any advice? Do you think I'm pregnant? Could it be something entirely different- stress related maybe? What do I do about my mom? I am really scared, and I need someone to talk to. I understand I am just on the brink of it not being a "teen pregnancy", but you seem to be the only person who has made a post anywhere so far that actually takes the matter seriously. Please help me.

[sweetiepie22]

Hi,
My name is Nicole and i am 13 living in new york projects. i feel like i am too young to get pregnant but my parents are always bugging me about dating boys. although most boys are like the type to always wanting to ask you to have sex. i am dating a 15 year old boy who is still in the 9th grade and goes to probation. He is not the smart type of person but i feel like he might be the boy i want to spend the rest of my life with. He is so sweet and yes he asked me to have sex with him more times than i could remember and we only been going out less than a week.

I feel like all he wants me for is sex and he told me that he loves me so many times i don't know weather to believe it or not. but he wants to have a baby with me and i am very cautious about all the girls that he slept with and what not. I also feel like i have no one to talk to about sex and me and my mother are not in a tight relationship. So i just thought that maybe i can learn to take from other peoples mistakes and maybe that can help me. So all i ask for is for someone like older than me can help me and tell me what you are going through so i can have a better life and not do the same.